Mary DiPaoloM.A., LLP
Psychologist · Author of the Resilience Trilogy · Interdependence Lifestyle Coach
“There’s a big difference between caring for people and carrying them. When you try to save, fix, and rescue, you drag your past hurts and present problems along with you. Your story has resilience in it when you learn from your past instead of repeating it. Let go, or be dragged.”
— Mary DiPaolo
The Resilience Trilogy
Three books, one message: moving away from toxic codependency and into healthier interdependence as a relationship lifestyle. Original cover art (acrylic pour painting) by Mary DiPaolo.
My Fractured Skull: Essays on Resilience
This book in the trilogy presents essays from Mary’s own life, from birth through age eighteen. With razor-sharp wit, laugh-out-loud humor, and her unique truth-bomb style, Mary shows what it takes to let go and keep going at the same time, as part of the healing and recovery process.
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Living Between the Fault Lines
Poetry Then (1996), Wisdom Now (2026). Thirty years have passed since Mary wrote seventeen poems about still struggling to heal at age forty. Now, her insights show that healing and recovery are an ongoing process, one that builds on itself—for all of us.
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Resilience: Quips & Quotes to Change Your Life One Truth at a Time
Where it started—nearly 25 years of the truth-adjacent quotes and one-liners that have stuck with both Mary and her clients.
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When we can’t remember, we read to remember: what it takes to get up, dress up, and show up for everyday life with courage attached. Mary’s essays and reflections on healing, recovery, and personal growth give us hope in the midst of and in spite of our specific challenges. Hope really does spring eternal.
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Interdependence Day: One Choice at a Time
Out of the dung pile of toxic codependency. Coaching available one-on-one or as part of a small group, capped at six participants.
Starting Point — $200
A single session to name what's going on and see if it's a fit.
The Interdependence Day Package — $1,000 · six sessions, one-on-one
The Group — $600 per person · six two-hour sessions, capped at six people
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Real letters about your real struggles and finding solutions to those struggles coming soon to a podcast near you.
Early 2027